If you've over-extended yourself for others, then you will feel selfish because providing for yourself in that way was foreign to you in the past. You must say no to people sometimes and stand your ground otherwise people will begin to take advantage of you. It takes time to strike a balance...to learn when one should concede and when to say no. The only way to know how to find that balance is to test out saying "no" a few times and see how you feel and the result. |