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Michelle · 06-05-2007, 07:14 PM

Forget the LOA for a moment.

If you really love her, fight for her. Simple.

In any case, learn from this and pave the way to a better future for yourself.

You may consider further cultivating your ability and willingness to commit. I suspect by looking at other areas of your life you would find a tendency toward reluctance in the commitment area. You will have to examine the origins of your fears.

When my boyfriend and I first met I chose to go against intuition and go out with another guy because he struck me as somehow "better". When I canceled a date with my now boyfriend he said to me "some guys don't get lucky", which broke my heart. After a month of misery with the other guy who treated me poorly it dawned on me that my now boyfriend would consider himself lucky to be with me. It was at that point that my whole view concerning love and relationships changed. My self respect grew and I realized I deserve to be treated well. In the end I asked my now boyfriend back out and we have been together since. He is the love of my life, of that I am sure. Only it took a period of misery to appreciate that fact.

I don't think, however, that I would be as kind to myself in the same situation. If a man is not sure if he wants to be with me, I would send him on his way.

06-05-2007, 07:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
Michelle Moderator Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Nidau, Switzerland Posts: 1,168	Forget the LOA for a moment. If you really love her, fight for her. Simple. In any case, learn from this and pave the way to a better future for yourself. You may consider further cultivating your ability and willingness to commit. I suspect by looking at other areas of your life you would find a tendency toward reluctance in the commitment area. You will have to examine the origins of your fears. When my boyfriend and I first met I chose to go against intuition and go out with another guy because he struck me as somehow "better". When I canceled a date with my now boyfriend he said to me "some guys don't get lucky", which broke my heart. After a month of misery with the other guy who treated me poorly it dawned on me that my now boyfriend would consider himself lucky to be with me. It was at that point that my whole view concerning love and relationships changed. My self respect grew and I realized I deserve to be treated well. In the end I asked my now boyfriend back out and we have been together since. He is the love of my life, of that I am sure. Only it took a period of misery to appreciate that fact. I don't think, however, that I would be as kind to myself in the same situation. If a man is not sure if he wants to be with me, I would send him on his way. __________________ "It is with flexibility and ease that I see all sides of an issue. There are endless ways of doing things and seeing things. I am safe." Louise L. Hay If what you read resonates with you, feel free to friend me on Facebook Last edited by Michelle; 06-05-2007 at 07:17 PM.