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Originally Posted by Vanilla  It sounds like your problem is you can't stop thinking about a certain someone, and you want to move on. And, you're asking what can you do to make the thoughts go away? |
Unfortunately, yes that’s the case
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Originally Posted by Vanilla If that's your question, then it's only going to take time. You have to spend time with friends, get out and date other people, and most importantly keep yourself busy by staying focused on your purpose in life. Stay focused on the things that bring you joy.
For me, it's my music. I keep myself busy with that, working hard on that, and I don't have time to think about "someone" who I'm not having any luck with. I also make sure I don't wallow, and I get out and spend time with friends even when I don't want to. It helps to take my mind off of things, and it lifts my spirits...
I also love to journal. And, when I'm trying to get over someone, I journal a lot. Especially during those times when all my friends are busy and I just don't feel like doing anything else. Journaling helps to get all my feelings out and it really helps me to put things into perspective. I would also recommend reading. Byron Katie's book, "I Need Your Love, Is It True?" has helped me tremendously in this area.
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I was afraid “time” might be the only answer, hopefully some of the other things *might* work. I’ve never journaled before, so does it really help you to get over someone quicker?