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Originally Posted by jamestl2  While this may be true, I suppose there is no getting around this then? As in actual techniques like meditation, writing or something?
It’s what I want to do, but right now I don’t have the willpower to “move on”, as some would say, and stop thinking about “particular people”, which is a reason why I started the thread, and I don’t particularly *enjoy* daydreaming about “her” very much. |
It sounds like your problem is you can't stop thinking about a certain someone, and you want to move on. And, you're asking what can you do to make the thoughts go away?
If that's your question, then it's only going to take time. You have to spend time with friends, get out and date other people, and most importantly keep yourself busy by staying focused on your purpose in life. Stay focused on the things that bring you joy.
For me, it's my music. I keep myself busy with that, working hard on that, and I don't have time to think about "someone" who I'm not having any luck with. I also make sure I don't wallow, and I get out and spend time with friends even when I don't want to. It helps to take my mind off of things, and it lifts my spirits...
I also love to journal. And, when I'm trying to get over someone, I journal a lot. Especially during those times when all my friends are busy and I just don't feel like doing anything else. Journaling helps to get all my feelings out and it really helps me to put things into perspective. I would also recommend reading. Byron Katie's book, "I Need Your Love, Is It True?" has helped me tremendously in this area.
Hope this helps a little bit...
