 On a positive note...
...maybe your father doesn't approve of the feelings you express in your blog, but maybe ( and surely ) you have inspired, helped, others by posting personal accounts of your life.
The greatest writers in the world could never have existed if they had thought or accounted for their parents' feelings...
If you feel better being away and having no contact with your family, without too much pain, more power to you. If you feel negatively judged and abused by them, you do not have to keep contact with them.
I lost my dad last year, and I cannot tell I had the best of relationship with him. Nevertheless, despite the awful and hurtful way he had treated me over the years, very similar to what you describe, we were lucky and blessed to part in good terms, he even said I was a great person, which he had never ever told me.Of course it would have been so much better to get to this kind of relationship before his departure. It is ironic that the less control he had over his brain, the less control he had over censoring himself and expressing his true feelings. Do not give up on hope.I wish that you find peace with your family. It takes tremenduous courage to do what you are doing. Do not close your heart, but protect it.
Best of luck.
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