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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  I would wash a dish when I ran out of clean ones, ditto clothes. So, I am calling it progress. |
It is progress. I went through a period in my life where I lived like that. One dish at a time...
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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity} So I got myself a mantra: "The past cannot be changed; I may never have the answers or understand what happened. I love him. I want him to be happy. I want myself to be happy. I will focus on now." It's kind of a long clunky mantra, I know. If anyone has any suggestions, I'm open to change. |
One that I use and which helps me is:
I forgive you, I forgive myself. I find it very powerful and I feel it has many levels of meaning for being such a simple phrase.
You'll come around. You're taking excellent positive steps. Breaking up is very similar to grieving, has the same steps, even:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
You sometimes end up going back to previous steps, but it sounds like you're moving between depression and acceptance, and that's fantastic. Much luck and love to you. Keep going.
