Hang in there. The pain does dull with time and become more manageable. At some point, you will have peace.
I’m 47. My Rhonda and I were married for 20 years. When she died, I hurt so bad that there were days I wanted to die. You’re right about this changing your life. You will never be the person you were before. You can however, become stronger than you were before.
The dating is a personal choice, but I decided to wait for a year to give myself time to heal emotionally. This was the right thing for me.
I also did not hold back on the tears. A counselor I went to at the time told me that grief is a natural process. In some respects the crying part is like vomiting. You don’t get well until you get the sickness out. She was right.
I have other family members that did not embrace the grieving process as I did. There pain still lingers on and has even shown up in making them physically ill as well. My suggestion is to cry, cry, and cry until you feel like you can’t anymore. This process can take months. However, you will heal faster this way.
From your posts I’ve read, I believe you are on the right track and handling your situation very maturely. Learn to be proud of yourself for the strength you exhibit.
I wish you all the best,
Mike Estep  |