Originally Posted by Plato
To put it simply, is it possible to love another person and truly be a darkworker?
Love, as the word is normally used, is love-polarized. If it makes you focus on another person beyond concern for their value to you. If it is the feeling that makes you want to do a lot for them without selfish concerns.
But a darkworker has something that's also sometimes called love. It is seeing intense value in things. I'm sure you can see how a darkworker might value gold or some other object. There are sentences such as "love of money" and "love of power". A high-level darkworker can also see intense value and importance in other people. Respect for another somewhat like their high respect for themselves, their feeling of self-importance extending to see other people as important in that manner of value
, related to the same feeling with which they value themself ('egoistical/narcissistic' selflove
), because they see the inherent or potential value the other person has to them. (note they'll still turn their back on another person any time it serves them to do so - not as something they'll do all the time just for the principle of it, they'll stay loyal to gain something, but when the relationship is no longer beneficial to them, they'll quit without a backwards glance)
Respecting a person, honouring a person, and drawing pleasure from having a great person in their lives.
that's only what I think, I haven't really tried darkworking much. But see if it resonates with you.
Also, think selfishly of all the ways a partner could enhance your life. Simply focus on what you desire
(not in the way of longing for 'sappy' love and sharing) and would enjoy
in your life. Then I also think you could see how you could value a partner very strongly, 'love' them in a manner that is more aligned with the definite fear-polarized emotion of lust (not just sexual, but 'lust' for their presence) than sweet-soft longing for love.
Caring for another person would be like caring for something that's important to you, instead of caring for another person for the other person's sake. But there can still be a great intensity and focus, dedication to caring for them, if you've decided they're of value to you.