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I want to hang out with people, but I'm afraid of being left out, so instead I'm sitting at home avoiding my work, stressing, over-planning so that everything "goes smoothly," watching TV and sleeping. not much work or socializing is getting done, kind of a paralysis of indecision... *sigh*
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That happens to me a lot too. I'm a much better planner than a doer. And I often succumb to the paralysis
3 suggestions:
1) Like Scott said, merge studying and socialization.
2) Manage your time better. Block off enough time to do your work well and Block off some time for social stuff. Make sure you get both done adequately. You shouldn't have to sacrifice one for the other. Don't procrastinate. I would guess, you are more likely to procrastinate on the social stuff. Put more priority on making sure that gets done, and do your work when you don't have a chance to do social stuff. You can tell how much time you'll need to get your work done, so you won't short yourself there.
3) Make your social time more effective. Focus on getting more out of your interactions. When you say you are sitting at the library, even with friends, that seems like a time when you aren't likely to be conversing a lot, meaning you aren't practicing those skills. It sounds like you are going to the library to both be productive and be social but you aren't really either.