This is an interesting phenomenon that I have noticed within myself at times. It seems that when I focus my attention upon an aspect of myself that I want to change (such as anger), I notice it more in other people around me. What's more, it irritates the heck out of me when I see it in other people!
I don't know why that is. What has worked for me, though, is to recognize that this is what I am doing. It's a form of projection, really, for whatever reason. Once I realize I'm doing this, and that it really has nothing whatever to do with the other person, the irritation usually dissipates.
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