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emeraldbaby · 05-28-2007, 02:43 PM

Hi Zenfender,

I'm kinda similar to you; was angry from an early age without real reason, and then slowly got better as i changed my view of 'reality'.

I used to get angry at angry people. I think I got it from going through alot of corporal punishment in primary school. I think it's mostly my ego saying "how dare you treat ME this way?

Now I mostly just feel sorry for them. Because I'm so happy & relieved to be emotionally aware, to not be damaging other people with emotional abuse, I wish other angry people can make the change too.

As for actual advice...Just think - angry ppl are at the level you were at some time ago. Think back to when you were an angry person - would somebody getting angry at you for being angry help you? angry ppl don't have the realisation and inner peace you have now, isn't that more sad than anything else?

Also, i feel I am more intolerant of anger because i'm trying to get rid of it. I'm focused on it because it triggers momeories. However, it is a natural emotion, and everyone shows it from time to time. Has it occurred to you that your GF's level of anger might actually be quite normal for the 'average' person? So don't get too pissed off at other ppl's anger. Afterall you're going to see it in ppl for the rest of your life, especially if you focus on it.

be happy that you had enough awareness to change yourself. I'm really happy for you as i'm for myself.

05-28-2007, 02:43 PM	#3 (permalink)
emeraldbaby Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 37	long, but i hope it helps :-) Hi Zenfender, I'm kinda similar to you; was angry from an early age without real reason, and then slowly got better as i changed my view of 'reality'. I used to get angry at angry people. I think I got it from going through alot of corporal punishment in primary school. I think it's mostly my ego saying "how dare you treat ME this way? Now I mostly just feel sorry for them. Because I'm so happy & relieved to be emotionally aware, to not be damaging other people with emotional abuse, I wish other angry people can make the change too. As for actual advice...Just think - angry ppl are at the level you were at some time ago. Think back to when you were an angry person - would somebody getting angry at you for being angry help you? angry ppl don't have the realisation and inner peace you have now, isn't that more sad than anything else? Also, i feel I am more intolerant of anger because i'm trying to get rid of it. I'm focused on it because it triggers momeories. However, it is a natural emotion, and everyone shows it from time to time. Has it occurred to you that your GF's level of anger might actually be quite normal for the 'average' person? So don't get too pissed off at other ppl's anger. Afterall you're going to see it in ppl for the rest of your life, especially if you focus on it. be happy that you had enough awareness to change yourself. I'm really happy for you as i'm for myself.