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ZenFender · 05-28-2007, 12:38 PM

I used to be a very angry child.

But years of introspection, maturity and a change in perspective has left me relatively anger free nowadays.

But there is always one thing that still makes my blood boil a bit- anger. When other people are angry, I get angry at them.

I'm not sure where this comes from. I guess it could be sort of a fear/anger response towards angry people. I get afraid when other people get angry, and maybe this somehow translates into anger somehow?

And it really doesn't help that I get most of my exposure of anger from my dad. I this is extremely hypocritical, but I get totally PISSED (and fearful in equal measure) when he's angry.

Another example is when my GF got pissed at me, I started to feel my temperature rising. But then, I realized the folly of my ways and started to suppress the angry feelings...not healthy, I know. Ideally, those feelings of anger shouldn't have popped up in the first place.

What can I do about this? I don't want to be fearful nor angry about anger.

Is it possible for me to have a healthy relationship with other peoples anger?

05-28-2007, 12:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
ZenFender Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 33	Angry about Anger I used to be a very angry child. But years of introspection, maturity and a change in perspective has left me relatively anger free nowadays. But there is always one thing that still makes my blood boil a bit- anger. When other people are angry, I get angry at them. I'm not sure where this comes from. I guess it could be sort of a fear/anger response towards angry people. I get afraid when other people get angry, and maybe this somehow translates into anger somehow? And it really doesn't help that I get most of my exposure of anger from my dad. I this is extremely hypocritical, but I get totally PISSED (and fearful in equal measure) when he's angry. Another example is when my GF got pissed at me, I started to feel my temperature rising. But then, I realized the folly of my ways and started to suppress the angry feelings...not healthy, I know. Ideally, those feelings of anger shouldn't have popped up in the first place. What can I do about this? I don't want to be fearful nor angry about anger. Is it possible for me to have a healthy relationship with other peoples anger?