[BluBlossom]

That must be frustrating. Perhaps the pain is a last-ditch effort on the part of the other person to get you to give up, so maybe you need to just grin and bear it and push through regardless. actually...hold on, will pm you.

edit: just wanted to add something that I thought of, but discussed in pm.

When the connection or interaction first started you would have agreed to work with the person or people involved. That agreement would have formed a contact/oath. In other words you gave permission for the link to form, so you invited it in that way. When you did this you basically gave him your consent to link up with you, though you didn't specify in what way. you didn't know it would lead to a cord. It turned out to be pretty bad, though you didn't intend for it to be this way either. so, don't worry!

Perhaps, because you're so open (and trusting) no 'boundaries' were put into place - you didn't think of it and you didn't know you gave your power away through this action. Which is okay, not the end of the world. It wasn't specified that you'd only link up for one specific reason - no clear rules put into place. Because you said you enjoyed the first few years, this reinforced the bond in ways. And your repulsion later as well.

You can't exactly dissolve it or get rid of it because of the consent given intially. That's why it restablishes and is persistant. So, permission needs to be rescinded. You can do this through surrender to source (simple-method. try to keep things simple, not over-complicated). "Source, please take this contract that was formed wherever it exists, it has served its purpose, thank you very much"... then ask for the space left to be filled with prana or energy, so nothing fills the gap apart from that. Then, try the cord-cutting again for good measure. trust that it works.