Please pardon my bluntness and don't take it personally.
The problem is that even if you do a cord-cutting (etheric cords) or clearing, the energy cords can still attach because the link is strong (so, much energy and attention has been put into this situation). Since you have put so much attention into this, even if you did cut the cords it might be negated because you're too attached to the situation.
So, let's say you got someone to cut the cord and it was cut successfully, but you doubt. You doubt that it has been cut or anything has been done because nothing has worked in the past. You're too attached and you're also kind of playing the victim. Which is perfectly fine, don't worry about it. Many people would behave similarly.
You do need to take responsibility that you have invested time and attention into this situation (yes, I understand that it has been hard). But, if you feel like you need to rebuke or defend your actions you aren't accepting or taking personal accountability. It's defensiveness or playing the victim. You've given so much of your control over to this person, take it back. Ask source (if this helps) to assist you in bringing back all your energy that you have handed over to this person. why is this person any better than you? he's not. its just a point of view.
You could try a visualisation or ritual also, see yourself taking back your energy and be firm. This is my energy, not yours. Thank you very much. Do a grounding exercise to get yourself present. Ask the universe to show you all cords that connect you to people who feed on your energy and do not serve you (that's all this person is doing truly, feeding on your attention and emotional energy). People do this when they think you can give them something they can't get on their own (which is an illusion). See white-light or love going down this cord to the other person, trust that this will feed whatever it is they think they can get from you. Trust that it is what they are wanting. Also, see yourself filling with energy or prana. You might have to do this a few times, so every day for a week or for however long you feel it takes. Sometimes people who are never satisfied with what you give will reconnect. so, try reversing the flow of energy. Instead of visualising white-light going to this person, see your energy coming back to you from this cord. Set the intention of taking back all the energy taken from you (you do have the ability to do this) and once they realise they can't take anything from you they should let go.
You do have the ability within you to cut this cord on your own. You don't need to search for help outside yourself - doubt gets in the way. You're not powerless or weak. If it's easier trust in your own connection to the energy of the universe and ask it for assistance.
Last edited by BluBlossom; 11-09-2010 at 10:28 PM.