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Originally Posted by Shamou  I don't know if John will agree with me... but seems to me that we are starting on the wrong foot here...
You say, "I'll try to be less perfect..." which is tantamount to saying... "I'll be a bit of a slob..."  
John talks about , " an exaggerated and unrealistic quest for perfection, a need to have things “just so.” For me, one of the keys to peace was learning to live with imperfection".
So, what you want to say is, " I will learn to live with imperfection..." ...instead of saying, " I will try to be less perfect"
A small distinction... but an important one... 
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Shamou, my friend, you hit the nail right on the head, as usual.
The goal is not to be "less perfect," but rather to be comfortable in our own skin, recognizing perfection is rarely attainable.
The 80/20 rule has really been a life saver for me, since it prompts me to "let go" before my perfectionist tendencies send me on a rediculous, unproductive, and emotionally damaging crusade for something that does not exist.