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Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno  In that case, Elias did not have any children. His partner did. Q.E.D. |
I did say not to make me go up-thread, right.?
Yeah, I get that it was in response to something Indiana said, but there's not QED here if both the OP and his wife contributed DNA.
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Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno You're corroborating my case, Medea. That is precisely what I have been trying to communicate to Indiana and others.
Elias was not irresponsible, nor was he attempting to shirk responsibility AT ALL, PERIOD, EVER. I have been actively rallying to help communicate this since that pernicious misappraisal first got suggested in this thread.
Once more, I am not absolving the OP of anything, nor does he require it.
He has nothing for which to feel guilty. |
Guilt is sorta useless anyway, but I don't see anyone promoting it here, so I'm not sure why you are mentioning it. What some few of us are saying is that, knowing he didn't want children, he behaved irresponsibly in not getting snipped. Your continued harping on how
both of them were taking birth control appears to be an attempt at absolution that is unmerited. One unplanned, unwanted child is a mistake. A second, regardless of who was using what birth control, is inexcusably irresponsible. They'd already beaten the 0.03% odds once, after all.
I'm not going to quote the rest of your post because it gave me a headache. You show inexhaustable enthusiasm for absolution but none at all for listening, which isn't my thing tonight, although I admire your persistence generally. In any case, not once has anyone said the OP is a bad person, for instance. Just witlessly irresponsible for not ensuring he never became a father.
The resentment I was referring to was toward his children...