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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi Quote: |
Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno Overwhelmingly most people are born to fathers who are +/- 25 years older than their offspring, so your situation was exceptional, rather than normal. | I hate it when people present a statement as if they know what they are talking about. You mean IN AMERICA. Gah. Americans are so egocentric. |
No, I'm speaking
globally. The OVERWHELMING majority of men have no further children after age 45. (Presupposing your father didn't retire at 53, he was conspicuously older than average.)
Oh, and I'm not American.
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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi Quote: |
Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno You were fully immersed in a loving and supportive relationship with your own father - so you've got your own opinion of what a responsible adult male does when tending for his kids - but try to recognize that not everyone chooses to generate babies, nor to undertake to raise children. This is a lifestyle choice. | Dur. I know that. I often advise people to not reproduce, and never feel guilty about making a choice to not have kids - it's the hardest job in the world with no benefits and no time off....
As a single parent with the flu, I feel like that a lot. Hell I feel like that on a regular basis. Check it out, I put my big girl panties on and suck it up! To ***** and moan about what is would be pretty lame at this point. |
It's ironic - when I first read your initial post in this thread, I presumed you were male, and projecting onto the OP your own opinions and attitudes based upon having had a far-better-than-normal relationship with your father.
Now I realize you're female, and you're projecting your own hostility and resentment at being a single-parent onto the OP instead. You don't actually understand his situation at all.
If you live in a country where abortion is legal and available to women, then you do not have anything in common with the OP, who was literally afforded NO CHOICE but to be a father.
You retained the choice of whether to become a mother, even though you had already HAD the sex which generated your offspring. In other words, if you took appropriate precautions against generating a pregnancy (say, using 99% effective birth control) and you became pregnant in spite of that, YOU STILL HAD THE CHOICE.
The OP did not. He did everything appropriately, and the final decision of his becoming a parent remained exclusively in his partner's hands.
Please consider this before passing judgment on him, or others who have found themselves in his position.
Johnny Soporno
Lifestyle Guru