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Originally Posted by LostMyMap  You think Lakshi was projecting? Watch this: Quote: |
Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno The OP didn't quit - he got conscripted against his will. |
That statement is the most complete uttter bit of ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ I've ever read on this forum. What a crock. He didn't get 'conscripted' into anything. You wanna dip your wick, you take your chances, pill or no. So she got pregnant. Too f***ing bad. Now grow the f**k up and deal with it. |
I guess LostMyMap also lost his dictionary?
There wasn't any
Projection in my correcting Lakshi's misappraisal of the situation, and more urgently,
being conscripted is PRECISELY what happened to the OP. (He was involuntarily pressed into service!)
My original quote was:
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Originally Posted by Me The OP didn't quit - he got conscripted against his will. He has done a stand-up job the entire time, but finds himself resenting his circumstances, and knowing that the kids will ultimately sense his discontent, and will feel responsible for his embittered state. Therefore he came to me to see if I might help him find an appropriate and realistic frame from which to present the case to his ex-wife which would best remedy the dilemma. |
As anyone should be able to see, his actions are entirely noble and responsible - he isn't trying to evade any responsibility whatsoever -
but he does not want to HARM his children by showing them a disgruntled and resentful parent (himself!)
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Originally Posted by LostMyMap I'd be real interested in seeing how this has developed over the last year and a half. Did he man-up and own his life's responsibilities and deal with his own 'discontent' and 'embittered state' for the sake of his kids? Or split entirely? Or begrudgingly spend time with the kids and screw them up with his 'don't really want this' attitude? |
As we clearly all agree, from the segment of your comment I've boldized, that his spending time with his kids against his will
would screw them up.
I presume he "owned his life's responsibilities" by negotiating an arrangement where he continued to sponsor and support his kids, without the ordeal of needing to attend to them personally.
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Originally Posted by LostMyMap Some of us have busted out ass for years and years trying to even have one and never got there. I'd do anything to be in his position of having the joy and the responsibility of a couple of kids seven days a week for the next twenty years. I'd kick the OPs ass and anyone else's too to get it. |
NOW who's projecting?
Have you considered adoption? If you WANT to raise children, there is a spectacular abundance of needful unwanted children who would be delighted, I'm sure!
Good luck
Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy