I deleted my original post on this, because I realised it was an old thread. BUT what I felt at the time, and what I feel now... is that the ONLY problem was that after separating BOTH parents had 50/50 custody.
My question is WHY?
Mom probably desperately misses her kids when she doesn't have them (especially as she's a working mom so even when she's with them doesn't get them all day), while Dad really resents the time he has to spend with them.
Sooo... why not do a more "traditional" split, where Dad has access to his kids one weekend a fortnight, and Mom has the kids the rest of the time? It seems to me like it would work out well in this case, and may make Dad appreciate the time he has with his kids more.
I'm just stunned that they got 50/50 custody in the first place... I'm not sure why this wasn't better discussed by them when they separated???
So what I would like to know is what's the current situation? Have they resolved this? I would be heartbroken as a mother, if I had to lose access to my kids 50% of the time so they could be with a father who didn't want them... It's fine if the dad's a great dad who wants his kids... but a different story when he doesn't.
I'm not judging the OP at all in this... he didn't want kids, and he made that clear... kids happened anyway... S*&t happens, right? But for his ex-wife to lose all that precious time with the kids she loves and wanted to me is the tragedy here.
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