Yeah... I know this is an old thread but I'd love to know what happened here.
Usually I think Johnny Soporno is pretty onto it but I'm pretty disappointed with his advice to a serial adulterer who resents the fact that his wife did not wish to have an invasive medical procedure to remove the children that she conceived while explicitly attempting to avoid such a situation.
I'm not sure 'you're an alpha male, and therefore it's okay to further abandon your part-time responsibilities to your children' advice is reasonable.
If he was so dead set against children, HE should have been the one to have the invasive medical procedure to ensure that he didn't find himself in this situation. Apparently he didn't want to go to the trouble, or to the trouble of telling his wife he did not want children for fear that he would lose his access to regular sex, or something.
He didn't do that, and now he has two living, breathing dependent children (TWO, I repeat. He did not even get the snip after the first child, when it became evident that a) his wife was able to get pregnant on contraception and b) they had conflicting ideas about the way forward in the instance that she did fall pregnant). Although he tries to come across in the letter like he's being responsible, the fact that he wrote to JS at all suggests to me that he was looking for someone to pat him on the head and tell him 'It's okay to shuck off your responsibilties! You're not cut out to be a dad; it would be worse for you to try to be a good one! Don't let the promises you made in the past tie you down today and stop you from being all the man you were meant to be!'
This isn't an 'alpha male' we're talking about here. It's a wimpy, selfish man-child, sulking because he doesn't want to live up to the responsibilities that he signed up for when getting married and having sex. No wonder people like LostMyMap are disgusted.