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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi  I threw up a little in my mouth. |
You should get that looked at...
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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi ...I had an AWESOME father. He was the most with it guy, so intelligent, worldly, experienced, patient. Never yelled at me, never lost his temper. When he was disappointed in me I wanted to sink into the ground.
I mourned his death terribly. But that wasn't because we had a "quality" relationship, we had a quality + quantity relationship. He was retired when I was 8, and became the stay at home dad. Packed lunches, made breakfast, drove me to and from school so I never had to ride the bus.
That man loved me so much. |
That's fantastic! You were very fortunate indeed.
Overwhelmingly most people are born to fathers who are +/- 25 years older than their offspring, so your situation was exceptional, rather than normal.
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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi Anyways, dealing with fathers who don't have the energy to parent is a huge drag. |
Having to deal with kids you
clearly and explicitly wanted NOT to have is also a monumental drag - both for the parent AND the kids.
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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi I don't always have the energy to, either, but tough nuts. You do what you have to do, and do it the best that you can do. |
Your projecting rather a lot here, Lak^2
Having energy or not is not the issue - the issue is whether one can avoid demonstrating
perceivable reticence to the children they must attend,
WHO NEED ATTENTION simply because they are kids.
You were fully immersed in a loving and supportive relationship with your own father - so you've got your own opinion of what a responsible adult male does when tending for his kids - but try to recognize that not everyone chooses to generate babies, nor to undertake to raise children. This is a lifestyle choice.
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Originally Posted by Lakshyayidhi Lakshmihi I just don't have respect for quitters, when it comes to kids at least. I just don't think there's any excuse other than laziness from the OP. |
The OP didn't quit - he got conscripted against his will. He has done a stand-up job the entire time, but finds himself resenting his circumstances, and knowing that the kids will ultimately sense his discontent, and will feel responsible for his embittered state. Therefore he came to me to see if I might help him find an appropriate and realistic frame from which to present the case to his ex-wife which would best remedy the dilemma.
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