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I re-read this and it sounds kind of confrontational, but that's not how I meant it at all. I'm just brainstorming...I hope I haven't offended you!

Ok, so you said he lives with you, right? If you tell him he needs to move out what will he do? Just keep living there without your permission?

I know what you mean (believe me!) about manipulation and making you feel sorry for him. He will try it because it has worked. However, you will be immune to it. You will not engage in conversation or discussion of your decision. Tell him this is the decision you have made and it's not up for debate. If he's not on the lease or deed or whatever and you ask him to leave and he won't, I wonder if that would constitute a legal reason? Regardless of if things were to get out of hand, wouldn't the fact that he's in your home against your will be trespassing or something?