Alright, I don’t know you or the guy personally, (and I’m definitely *not* a relationship expert) so I will try not to jump to conclusions and give my POV based off everything you said.
It kind of sounds like you didn’t trust him before you found out about his DUI (opening his mail, researching his financial history, etc., it would be understandable if you were truly concerned about him then, or if both of your names were on the court letter, etc.). If relationships are suppose to be built on trust, then why put up with any of it at all in the first place?
I agree with the fact that there is no excuse for him lying to you (It seems like he was just trying to impress you with his money, house, etc.)
If he says you mean *everything* to him, (and at the same time still keeps secrets and gets angry) it sounds like he is just trying to manipulating into feeling bad about yourself, whereas someone who truly cared about you would not *still* hide things about himself.
I don’t know why you are letting *his* family put pressure on you, because if you just decided to end everything, you wouldn’t have to worry about any of them, right? (Unless you still would have to see them or something based on external factors.)
Like Michelle said, if you asked him to leave and he refused, then why not call the police or something. Although I don’t quite agree with Angela’s method of getting some other guy involved, as he may get even more jealous and emotionally unstable, accuse you of cheating, etc.
Hope everything turns out OK and Goold Luck to you and your daughter |