I think Irisha has goen awol.
I accept Irisha's experience here, and if it is what she wants then cool.
However, if she does want some help to change the experience now then thats what she's seeking here and I hope the advice helps.
Somehow I get the feeling that there is more to this than we are being told.
I think Irisha knows this man is not doing anything to her and I also get the feeling there was or is a personal aspect to the story, in that she had feelings for him or something.
Peace out and good luck kid, love as always.