I must admit to not having read each and every message here, but some points came to the back of my mind, and were reinforced or clarified by what some of the others said:
1. You are not a victim, or rather, you do not have to continue to be one. On the flip side of this coin, the fact that you are suffering from this connection implies that on some deep level you still consider this telepathic link something good, something fascinating. Maybe something that makes you "special", and you may, on a subconscious level still be afraid to be "just normal, grey, colorless, like everybody else" again. Your mind will rebel against this explanation, but let it simmer for a while.
2. As I said, you are not a victim if you don't want to, and he does NOT have absolute control over you. Otherwise....why would he need to punish you? Why does it exhaust him when he keeps punishing him? Why does he punish you worse and worse the more you go against his will? Because he can't control you. He cannot really force you to do stuff you don't want to do, when you really put your will behind it. The mere fact that he finds it necessary to punish you is proof that his power over you is very limited.
Each and every time he punishes you is a sign that you have triumphed over him...even if it is just a tiny bit every time. Feel your own power and independence! Know that you are anything but a helpless victim. You can fight, and you can even fight BACK.
There are several ways to deal with energies like this. One way is smothering it with love and light. The other is sending back what is sent to you. Threefold. "Return to sender" is a lovely song by Elvis Presley. Next time he hurts you, visualize a mirror reflecting it back at him through the channel. Because that is the nature of channels: they work both ways. You may not be spared the pain, because especially in the beginning his energies will still get through to you out of "habit" (you are so used to allowing his energies in that you won't be able to just shrug them off from one moment to the other), but once he gets the hint that he can be on the receiving end of it as well, he may pull out and leave you alone. If phone calls scare him, just think what this will do to him.
I realize this attitude may not be popular with everyone on here. But there are beings and people out in the world who do not recognize anything but strength and power as a deterrent when you can't, for some reason or other, vibrate on a high enough level to not get affected/afflicted by them in the first place.
You must be very angry. I can imagine anger being one of the strongest emotions you carry around with you right now. Normally, the soundest advice would be to ground yourself, accept this anger, and then release it. In this case, I suggest accepting it, and condensing it, compressing it into a tight red globe, and send it back through the link when he tries to make you do something you don't want to, or hurts you.
3. If you know other "victims" of his mind control, get in touch. Meet, if possible, and exchange ideas and thoughts. Work in unison. Concentrate on the same formulas and thoughts to send him. Realize your collective power to control how much he is allowed to control you. Share that his punishment is a sign of his failure to control you. There is strength in numbers.
You already ARE more powerful than he is. His power is based on your fear and your fascination with the psychic energies he seems to so effortlessly wield. Once this fear stops, this awe, once you realize that he is just human, and is afraid of many things himself, once you take him down from the huge pedestal that he stands on in your thoughts right now, he will be...just a man. A man who maintains an illusion of power through intimidation and fear.
Conquer your fear, and you win your freedom.
Last edited by Mynder; 11-01-2010 at 08:28 AM.