Hello mlc82...
Robert Pirsig who wrote the famous book, "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" tell us that when we cannot find the answer to a question it is because the question encompasses too many elements... so, what we should do is to narrow it down...
You want to do something but can't figure out what... why don't you focus on creating a new you... a new and improved version of the same one...
That could be the most rewarding endeavor that you could ever undertake... and if you devote as much intensity and passion in it as you do in scrubbing and cleaning... the results should be spectacular...
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