Originally Posted by DBV
Now give me a few reasons why being androgynous is cool? You also find androgynous guys sexually attractive and would like to have a relationship with him? I doubt it 100 percent. I bet girls laugh about it when they chat... you may have done it too years ago.. And one thing for sure, if you see a androgynous guy, you don't respect him as a Man.
In my opinion you are just being friendly and too supportive trying to say ''it's okay you don't need to change''. The guy knows he needs to improve so why you don't actually help with something he could act on.. Believing that you are good just the way you are is childish, you don't take responsibility for getting better.
Thanks for telling me what my preferences are, but actually, you're wrong: I have dated very slim, long-haired, emotionally available guys who looked like boyish girls. Frankly, I find them hot. Lots of women do, from what I know from discussions with my friends. One of my friends always refers to my most androgynous ex as 'that beautiful, beautiful man.' He was prettier than I am.
Great guy too. Loved to talk philosophy and art. Hot.
My partner cries if he gets emotional, loves to cook, and cuts hair for a living, and he is AMAZING. A much better man than some of the more traditionally manly manly masculine men I've dated. He has loads more female friends than guys, although has good guy mates too. Once men stop being immature teenagers, often they can handle friendships with other men who don't happen to be into football-and-beer-and-swinging-dicks.
I actually think that encouraging people to be confident in who they are and not to let fear and increasingly outdated stereotypes tell them there's something 'wrong' with them IS helpful. But there you go. Call me crazy.