Originally Posted by Indiana
You guys need to get a broader social circle.
True, partly! lol
Now give me a few reasons why being androgynous is cool? You also find androgynous guys sexually attractive and would like to have a relationship with him? I doubt it 100 percent. I bet girls laugh about it when they chat... you may have done it too years ago.. And one thing for sure, if you see a androgynous guy, you don't respect him as a Man.
In my opinion you are just being friendly and too supportive trying to say ''it's okay you don't need to change''. The guy knows he needs to improve so why you don't actually help with something he could act on.. Believing that you are good just the way you are is childish, you don't take responsibility for getting better.
I have been in his position few years ago, I'm still on my way to fix it. But the fact is, you have to accept the fact that you suck (in whatever, you fat, you skinny, you don't know how to do something etc). Then take responsibility and act on improving it (if you can, I have a big nose, but I stopped worrying about it because there is nothing I can do to change it). Once you are on the way, then you are doing good, you are enough and you are getting better.