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Originally Posted by pi11  Actions take time to reveal personal ideologies. Until then words have to be trusted. |
I don't trust words until I see the action to back them up. I will listen to them and file them away for later analysis. I don't actually believe someone until they have given me reason to be able to believe them, or disbelieve them until they give me reason not to believe them. I realize that is awfully critical of me, but I do give people a chance to prove or disprove their words before I make a final judgment on them. It is possible to refrain judgment until you get more facts if you make a conscious effort to do so (like Nico Kempe said, observe your emotions as they happen). There are those rare cases that someone's words are so demeaning/hurtful/inappropriate/insert word here that it is easy to come to a safe conclusion that they are what they say before they have a chance to prove it through their actions, but usually people put their best foot forward when meeting someone new. Especially if the meeting is to hopefully find romance. That's what dating is for though right? To have the time to compare the actions with the words and see if they match.