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Old 10-20-2010, 01:40 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Honeywith4bees View Post
My kids and I have been talking about this kind of stuff a lot lately with all the recent goings on and they tell me how difficult it is to have some one intercede on your behalf when you are being bullied. The kids tell me that to have someone else "stick up for you", and in your case, a male having to be defended by a woman, just eventually makes things worse for the "victim".

To somehow alert the "wimp" of where to find the resources to learn how to deal with this sort of stuff and to also let him know that he is not alone may be the best course of action for you to take.
I was actually thinking this on the way home from work today, and I agree. It's probably best to just detach from the sitch and leave it to the person being bullied to learn to stand on their own...otherwise it is just rescuing them and perpetuating their victim state, rather than allowing them to come to the solution in their own way at the right time.

Learning to detach in life is a huge lesson. Non-interference with someone elses lesson is important I think.
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