Originally Posted by elucidate
I can understand standing his ground, for sure, but there's a difference between standing your ground and allowing people to **** all over you, and it looks like he did this more than give any kind of powerful message to the bullies.
I'd have at least asserted myself...but then, some peoples self-esteem ain't too high. Time for him to work on this I'd say. I would probably also not stand around and just watch someone get treated like this. Power in numbers means that the more people around him on his side, the less the bullies will bully.
It's always easy to think about it when you're not the one experiencing it though.
How would you have asserted yourself? It's pretty hard to do in a 4-on-1 situation. I remember now there was another enormous guy there. I really think the big guys would have reacted if the situation had gotten really violent, although they would not intercede in such a petty conflict. How would you have reacted as a bystander?
Many of you seem to think he should have just left the situation. At what point should he have left? What words and demeanor do you imagine him having? Is that taking the easy way out?
Maybe I could have said something like "Wimp is a precious and valued human being. When you hurt wimp, I feel disturbed because _____." Well, I read that 3-part pattern is good for fostering dialog, don't know exactly why I feel disturbed though. Because I have some shred of empathy probably. Not for the bullies though, hah!