I used to think like you. Not anymore.
I think "love", "world-love based", and "self-love" are themselves fear-based thinking. So, let me explain.
Fear can be justified as a cause of love, but love cannot. Let's go back to nature [I told you, I'm willing to go back to caveman age
]. Does anyone know the french quote "La nature a horreur du vide", meaning nature hardly stand emptiness [excuse my poor translation though]? We as living creatures can't live alone [fear], so we must express ourself to other living creatures, interact with them in many way [relationships]. And the best interaction possible is love.
Think about it. We have evolved a lot; fear has been passed generations to generations. And there are many many way to experience fear. One of the way is the cause of love. Go ask any psychotherapist if feeling of loneliness is not the principal cause of hate. I thought love and fear were equal force; I was wrong. Fear is more powerful.
I have thought of not feeling love anymore, but you know what happened? The thoughts of being an alone, useless, unloved creature make me recognize the power of fear.
See that. When you choose not to feeling anything, you feel fear
My new belief is that, when you have experienced
extreme fear, you also know unconditional love, because fear is more than love after all.