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Originally Posted by Jenny  ZHereford, I think the bothersome part to me is without a lot of backtracking I have a hard time explaining to others how and why I’ve made the decisions or came to the conclusions I have.  It’s not a big deal when it comes to people I know or who know me as I can explain myself fairly easily when talking it through. It is frustrating when it is people who don’t know me and are questioning my conclusions or in written form (a problem for a setting such as a forum for instance…) because not having another person to bounce my thoughts off means I have to slowly re-create my thinking from scratch. I guess it is probably really good practice though.
I agree with you on the “we have to make mistakes in order to learn and gain wisdom” though.  |
Jenny, you shouldn't have to explain to people why you make the decisions you do. If they are well thought out and make sense at the time what more can you do?
Hindsight, as they say is 20/20. Of course, some of the decisions we've made don't look as brilliant in retrospect. That's life! We can't live it in reverse.
Whether we realize it or not we are here to learn and develop. We will never make perfect decisions, nor are we meant to. We live and
learn; and one of the ways we learn is from our mistakes.
As far as pain and pleasure go, the outcome is often hard to predict.
Pain or pleasure could also be short term and in no way an predictor of future pain or pleasure. Most success involves some pain and discomfort. To try and avoid it could jeopardize important lessons.