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Originally Posted by nvictor 
But, there is flaw. I don't have a child, but I think that people love children because they are little, defenseless, and they need love. We are afraid of what might happen to them if we don't provide that care.
Fear is the real driving force...
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Fear is not at all. I am not a parent. But i am still motivated by love. While i don’t want to lose the people in my life, i dont fear doing so. Love and friendship transcends death. We have memories, and pictures, and the experiences.
I think children in alot of ways teach unconditional love. Until kids, lots of people dont get it. They dont know what it is like to truly love without getting anything back but a smile or a dirty diaper. Kids for a lot of people teach true love and true forgiveness, but that is not the only way to learn it.
Your theory here is flawed. I have a 16 year old cousin. I am a few years older then him. He is big, 6'3 and counting. He can pick me up and swing me around... and he does. He is smart, can cook, he works. He really does not need me to take care of him. Sure, he loves advice and help with programming and help with calculus, but almost everyone needs help with those. He is neither little, young, or defenseless, yet there is nothing i would not do for him. It is not fear of him being taken from me or him not being able to take care of himself, its simply that i love him and love to spend time with him and love to do things with him and for him.
He would surive ok with me. He might not understand calculas as well. He would miss me. But he would surive and still do great things. I want to still be around for him and continue to teach him how to drive and watch his eyes light up when his program compiles, but he will live an awesome life without me. One day he will have too.
He learned unconditional love through cats. Seriously. He loves his cats more then i have ever seen anyone express love for animals. Because he understands this, he understands love on a much deeper love then a lot of people do.
Love can do anything. Fear is limited to being able to take something away, or hold something other someone. Love knows no bounds. It can never be taken away.
Adrienne
