I have absolutely no idea who Steve Pavlina is or what his angle is. It's not giving me the creeps, so that's a good thing. I will check it out, I guess. Is he / this forum a CBT practitioner or something?
Erm, I guess not controlling (realising inability to control) is obviously a good thing from any standpoint. Certainly, it fits with: buddhism that I am kinda into and, of course, takes a stand against the codependency that I have railed against.
I am not sure whether people on this forum can see any pattern in my judgements outlined above and what they say about me or whether they see any profit in doing so.
My problems aren't particularly big, Itsy. I feel for you that yours were. I have probably made most of my own for me. I was cared for in a careless fashion, my mum was great at putting food on the table, we got away (mostly to wet bits of France, but, hey!) I had wonderful grandparents and something for Xmas and birthday if not exactly what I wanted. School was miserable and I don't think I was readied for the harshness of the world around me, but now, through necessity, I know far more about it than most other people seem to. They might as well be living on Neptune for all they could summate about this incredible planet.
Thanks for your help. I just spoke to my boyfriend about this forum and he, quietly, so as not to 'get me going,' I imagine said, 'yes, you are harsh and judgemental of your mother.' So I think it's been useful. Keep it coming of course!
Michael x
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