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Originally Posted by wystan  I wonder if anyone responding actually knows what I am talking about. I don't really get the feeling that you know what it is like to have a mother who is so wrapped up in herself and bullying her husband into being present, that she is not there for her children. |
For my part, let me just say that I am intimately familiar with dysfunction in family. I choose to put my focus elsewhere, so I'll not go into any details about that.
For years (and years) I spent time and a whole lot of money talking to people about my problems. Never once did they shrink under scrutiny as psychologists said they would. They just got bigger and bigger. (And please believe me when I say they were BIG to begin with.)
What worked for me was to realize that I had no control over other people. I only had control over myself. I changed my focus, using a similar exercise as outlined in my above post, and came to a place where people now think I have an ideal family situation.
Well, in fact, I do have an ideal family situation now.
That's not to say that everyone in my family acts just as I would have them act. But I'm happy and content and I love them all dearly just as they are. That makes all the difference in the world.
I wish you the best.