Well, I think the first step is to acknowledge what you've been being and to take responsibility for it. Can you see for yourself how being judgemental has been a self-perpetuating action? You judge, then your parents/the whole world/yourself reacts, and then you judge the reaction, which creates more reaction, and so on?
Once you're really alert to that trap you set for yourself, you are free to either: a) keep doing it; or b) try something else. It's looking at the trap square in the face that gives you freedom to release yourself from that trap and act powerfully.
When you've taken a good look, and you're ready, start speculating: what's a way of being that might work better than being judgement. That way of being is something that makes you feel good, and something that inspires you. You don't have to commit to a particular way of being, just speculate, and see what comes up.
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