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Originally Posted by wystan  i guess maybe I wonder what the 'heavy duty judgement' of my parents is, too. I guess it's sometimes hard to see ...
Michael x |
Michael, I've deleted out the stuff that didn't sound like judgment to me, and here's what's left, so you can see it from an outsider's perspective:
I have realised she is quite severely codependent.
she... even lacks the self-respect to train!
I have always called her a martyr.
My dad is silent and distant
I want my mum to realise she's not happy
it's a power struggle about her way of doing things (which is her controlling the family)
I talked her down from this craziness (if you knew her, you'd gasp)
Just I think (well, I know) that it is this kind of rage and pain that she should be feeling before she can take care of herself. I did it in half her years. Can't she?