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Originally Posted by wystan  Is this my problem or theirs? |
Yours.
You began your email by mentioning how non-judgemental you have been, but your entire post reeks of heavy-duty Judgement of your parents. Perhaps you believe that that's not what you've expressed to them -- it's just what you're telling us here privately -- so it shouldn't be a factor in your relationship. But it comes through pretty strongly that Judgement is what you're being with mum & dad (and I would bet elsewhere in your life, as well.) No mystery as to why they'd be resistant and defensive and in denial. That's how people react when they feel oppressed.
There's something else you could be that would interrupt this long-held pattern, if you're willing to practice letting go of what you're so tightly clutching. And if you keep on doing what you've been doing, you'll keep on getting what you've gotten. It's your choice.