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Originally Posted by wystan  thanks - on the one hand you say, 'don't bother,' on the other you say, 'let her know these acts are xy and z.' Well, doing this is exactly what made her fly off the handle the last time! these folks are complex, that's for sure! For example she (like my sister) exploded when I suggested they might be paranoid (ie that I would want to hurt them) but also both underline the fact that they are 'fragile' and must be treated carefully. Catch 22, innit?
I think being honest about my own struggles and triumphs might be the way. I think it' sbest to tell people abou tyou for them to open up. If not, I will just have to say, 'well, that's me - how's about you?'
Also, she's new to email, so that was prolly my first mistake. But we live a couple hours apart. That's far over here (!)
Michael |
When I say that you should accept her for who she is, that doesn't mean that you should let her disrespect you or be mean to you without just cause. If you let her know about how you feel and she still acted in that way, then you just have to let it go. What more can you do? Talking to her about such matters results in friction and argument. If her behavior is really that outrageous, accept that she won't change and alter your own behavior to match that.
It may be a catch 22, one we might not understand until we are older.