thanks - on the one hand you say, 'don't bother,' on the other you say, 'let her know these acts are xy and z.' Well, doing this is exactly what made her fly off the handle the last time! these folks are complex, that's for sure! For example she (like my sister) exploded when I suggested they might be paranoid (ie that I would want to hurt them) but also both underline the fact that they are 'fragile' and must be treated carefully. Catch 22, innit?
I think being honest about my own struggles and triumphs might be the way. I think it' sbest to tell people abou tyou for them to open up. If not, I will just have to say, 'well, that's me - how's about you?'
Also, she's new to email, so that was prolly my first mistake. But we live a couple hours apart. That's far over here (!)
Michael
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