[JohnPlace]

This may sound crazy, but getting out of prison might actually be a stressful experience for him. I suggest this because you mentioned that it's getting harder as his release date approaches.

Any environment change can be stressful. For example, many people are surprised to learn that retirement is one of the most stressful experiences in life - it is stressful because it changes a life dramatically.

He's gotten used to a certain way of life over the last couple of years -- an institutionalized way of life -- and now he's going to have to think like a free man again. Being free includes responsibilities he hasn't had in a long time.

He's also gotten used to your relationship being a certain way. You were his supporter, but the relationship was "part time" by necessity. The prospect of that relationship being full time, and your role in his life changing, may be frightening to him.

It's very hard to give good advice based on a couple of posts, but I feel for you and wish you the best.