[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by themaster

Rockchick: Relaxing is doing nothing!

Do you think people get more work done when there calm centered feel good?

Or when they throw their hands in the air run around in panic mode.. "like" a chicken with its head cut off?

Why do you justify your ego's behavior..

10 to 1 rockchick, we can find a 100,000 study's on this big old internet that say.. a relaxed person is 10 times more effective than the "cut off head chicken person"

10 to 1 we can find a 100,000 study's that say a confident/optimist person, who likes themselves is far more likely to get a job then a neurotic shut in person that complains about their life.. rather than someone who chooses to see the cup half full

Why do you allow this behavior?

Why do you choose it?

There is hard cold scientific evidence that relaxed, calm, people who like themselves even love themselves.. excel at everything they do..

These study's don't say.. cut off your head! Wave your arms all around.. that's the best way to find a job!

You have to apply to jobs to get them. That's all I'm doing. I'm not running around in a panic, literally. The panic is all in my head, and I am simply sitting in front of my computer checking out job sites. It wouldn't matter if my head was calm or chaotic, as long as I'm applying for jobs, that's what I have to do.

It's like you’re working at a office all right? And your boss says..

"Write me the perfect report on this" and you go

Rockchick: Yes, sir!

And you go back into your office and write that perfect report.. and you re-read it/analysis it.. realize that part isn't perfect! And that part isn't perfect! And that part isn't perfect!

And before you know it.. all you can do is RE-READ that report making it more and more perfect.. to infinity!!!!

When if you just let go.. say this is the best it is.. I am the best I can be.. I'm certainly not a bad person! I'll just turn it in as is.. it is a perfect as it can be for this moment and time..

I DO do better after I revise things. All writers know that you get better with practice, and your rough draft is usually changed a lot before the final copy. I think anything in life should be done that way. You do it first, then go back and read it again as if you were someone else reading it for the first time, and you have an objective view of it. I re-read every post I reply to, and I also re-read every reply before I hit "submit". I can't believe anyone would teach you to sloppily throw something together and not even check it over.

What I'm really trying to say.. is your EGO behavior is a lot like the re-read.. and in it is a lot of self-criticism.. a not liking yourself..

From my personal opinion rockchick.. you really don't like you! A lot!

That has nothing to do with wanting to write a perfect paper. It's about refining something, fixing the flaws so you have something presentable. The first cars ever invented weren't perfect, thank God they didn't release those or people would have been left stranded on the side of the road! The prototype for something always has room for improvement. This has nothing to do with how much it's inventor likes themselves.

I mean you've already said.. you don't like being here?

Rockchick: I force myself out of bed every day!

There's no love or joy in this statement.. do you see that?

I don't like getting up because one, it's too early for me, I'm not a morning person, and even on my days off I have to get up early so it isn't so hard the next time I have to work! And two, I don't like getting out of bed because when I'm sleeping I don't have to deal with my problems. Of course there's no joy in my statements, because my life is all about problems, I can't do anything I enjoy anymore. I used to fly out of bed when I had something to look forward to and was able to get at least 7 hours of sleep.

You can't get that job until you relax.. you just can't..

I disagree. The employers that read my resume don't have a clue if I'm relaxed or not. I got 2 jobs in the last 9 months, stressed as all hell.

Sometimes you have to slip back down the handle! Cause you took the wrong fork in the road.. turns out this road was overgrown with weeds and made of dirt and every second you drove down it.. you felt more afraid and unhappy and uncertain

Do you see in this situtation why reverse or slipping down the handle might be a good thing?

Yes but only if you can get back into another spoke (is that even the right word?) and not stay in the handle forever.