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JohnPlace · 05-10-2007, 09:59 AM

My first girlfriend was physically abusive. I stayed with her for a long time because I believed I didn't deserve any better. When we broke up, I was devastated. It took me 3 years to get over it.

Please allow me to impart to you the wisdom that I eventually developed for myself:

You deserve to be with someone who can love you in return.

If she's an abuser, I think you owe it to yourself to get as far away from her as possible. The only authority that she has over you is the authority that you give her.

I am now married to my soul-mate, and my relationship with my first girlfriend is a distant memory. You will move on too. I feel for you; I really do. And I wish you the best.

05-10-2007, 09:59 AM	#15 (permalink)
JohnPlace Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 332	My first girlfriend was physically abusive. I stayed with her for a long time because I believed I didn't deserve any better. When we broke up, I was devastated. It took me 3 years to get over it. Please allow me to impart to you the wisdom that I eventually developed for myself: You deserve to be with someone who can love you in return. If she's an abuser, I think you owe it to yourself to get as far away from her as possible. The only authority that she has over you is the authority that you give her. I am now married to my soul-mate, and my relationship with my first girlfriend is a distant memory. You will move on too. I feel for you; I really do. And I wish you the best. Last edited by JohnPlace; 05-10-2007 at 10:11 AM.