Originally Posted by John68
I have some hardcore belief systems that really get challenged by questions like that. My experience in the past has shown me that often, when I decide what I want, go after it, and don't get it, that wanting=pain. Therefore, don't want. Be happy with whatever you get.
This is the crux of the issue right here. Your passivity is a result of not wanting it BAD ENOUGH. Raise your tolerance to pain, and refuse to let things get in the way of what you want to achieve.
Also don't be afraid to dream big.