Originally Posted by John68
I have some hardcore belief systems that really get challenged by questions like that. My experience in the past has shown me that often, when I decide what I want, go after it, and don't get it, that wanting=pain. Therefore, don't want. Be happy with whatever you get.
And I'm sick of it.
Well, I can see how that kind of believing would keep you behaving passively, alright!
Does it REALLY work to believe the opposite? To believe that I can, as you say, "step into" a new reality? Can you give me a simple example?
In my experience, believing the opposite of beliefs that haven't been working well, doesn't work too well, either. Your unconscious mind will tend to sneer at you if you try to pull the wool over its eyes by telling you something in conflict with what it believes is reality. That goes against its prime directive: to protect and preserve you - it occurs like a real threat.
I think it would work well to examine that old belief you have ("wanting=pain") and if you find it doesn't work well for you, dismantle it and generate something that works better -- which, again in my experience, is rarely the opposite of the not-well-working thought. There are a bunch of great ways to do that, and of course a session with me is the best way! You can also try The Work of Byron Katie The Work of Byron Katie
, which you can do on your own, for free.
So many examples of stepping into a new reality, it's hard to choose. One that made a huge difference in my life was letting go of an old belief that "I am worthless" and generating a new, inspiring belief that who I am is the possibility of being Freedom, Connection, and Joy -- and in the blink of an eye, just like that, I went from being the most shy person in the world, absolutely terrified of public speaking, to speaking to a crowd of 400 people with charisma and connection and freedom and joy, easily and effortlessly, and noticing that my shyness was a thing of the past.