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Originally Posted by Erki  I think the term "Alpha male" is way overused, main culprit being the PUA community. When I see the the term "alpha male" somewhere, my first reaction is that he's a PUA or player or something like this.
I like the term "being his own man" much better, but then again that doesn't imply leadership very much, it's more about independence, but if you're a leader then you're not really 100% independent, you depend on the people you are leading. Still, I don't think it's too far off either. |
hi erki.
i like someone "being his own man" or "being her own woman" better than the "alpha" designation too.
reason why is, when you start talking "alpha" it sounds like youre talking biology, like alpha dogs (which are readily observable in nature!) when you are really talking ideology and metaphysics.
a lot of harm has been done by mistaking ideology for biology! for instance, used to be women were thought too hysterical and emotional to own property or vote. hmmm, if i wasnt allowed to own property or vote, i'd be pretty hysterical too!
there's also the horrible statement that pops up every now and then about intelligence being linked to race. sure, if my race is the one defining what "intelligence" means, then i would expect my race to come out ahead in any measurement of it. but it doesnt mean it's biologically true.
someone "being his or her own person" is a much better way of getting the idea across that it's about decision making and ideology, not hard-wired biological imperative.