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Originally Posted by wolfgang  The trouble I see with saying high school is the best years of your life is that it doesn't give you any room to say now (high school, college, working stiff, bum, retired) is also good years of your life.
It reminds my of the saying, "those were the days!" when looking back at parts of your life as the best. Which makes it sound like you are saying now sucks. Last time I said, "those were the days", a friend looked at me with a shocked look and I quickly said "but now is awesome too!" |
too true, wolfgang.
i have friends who are always trying to "get back" to some place they were in the past.
one friend in particular spent a long time being upset that my relationship with her had changed and she wanted to "get back" that special something we used to have.
another friend is frequently miserable because she wants to "get back" the body she had before she had a terrible allergic reaction that landed her in the hospital for months, caused her to gain weight from the steroid treatments, etc.
i think trying to get anything back is a huge mistake. you are never going to get back to where you were, and why would you want to? that's regressing!
you can get to a new and better place, and that's what i encourage my friends to do -- let's recognize that our friendship is deeper and stronger now because of all we've shared; accept that your body is healthy and beautiful right now without being angry that it's no longer like it was.
people often romanticize the past, then compare the present to it. the present always comes out looking deficient when you do this! why not romanticize your life right now, look at it in the most positive way you can, and write your story from that point, rather than trying to circle back?
i just dont get the whole "good old days" thing. i am all about right here, right now. because of this, i always feel like the person i am right now is vastly preferable to any person i might have been in the past. i'm always having the best year of my life so far!