Originally Posted by FutureShock83
Ah, that would make sense! Yeah, I am quite masculine (most people don't know I'm gay until I tell them) but the thing is, this is who I really am and by changing my demeanor to someone more camp and feminine I wouldn't be being true to myself at all.
It's subtle and tricky. It doesn't mean to do things you wouldn't ordinarily do. It means to stop doing things that are unconsciously attracting women. When I took honest stock of how I was acting in public, I realized that I knew a lot of gay guys, and that I was appropriating a lot of their mannerisms, drawing other gay guys to me. Once I identified those unconscious mannerisms, I replaced them with conscious elements designed to grab the attention of women.