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Originally Posted by Farryn  I was going to break up with my boyfriend over this but girlfriends and family reminded me that all men look at porn and that I should just accept it. Because, they said, it doesn't have anything to do with me or with how he feels about me. It doesn't mean that he doens't think I'm beautiful. |
Wow. I am flabbergasted that nearly everyone is agreeing with the advice that your friends and family gave you. The part about it having nothing to do with you is probably true. HOWEVER, it is NOT true that all men look at porn; and certainly not that you should accept it if it bothers you!!
None of my close male friends look at porn, and neither does my long-term boyfriend. They all have seen porn, of course - as have I - but they do not feel the need to do that/they feel it's beneath their dignity/it's degrading (to them!). Granted, they are a very small minority, but men like this exist! If you are deeply disturbed by porn, the man who loves you should understand this and stop using porn, or else this relationship will have damaging aspects.
I recommend you go to hugoschwyzer.net and look at his posts on porn...
And whatever you do, do not do things that you feel deeply uncomfortable with, just because you think this might please your boyfriend!
I hope this is resolved well...